So, you've sent her gazillions of roses, dozens of chocolates and a hundred "I'm sorry" cards and she still refuses to speak with you? Well, let me be the first one to commiserate with you. That must hurt like the plague. But don't you ever wonder if you're doing something wrong? Are roses, chocolates and cards really going to get her to come back? And if they won't work, what will?

The truth is, a break-up is way more than just another one of your fights. If roses, chocolates and cards worked when you accidentally spilled spaghetti sauce all over her mother's couch; they just won't cut it now. You have to understand that if you're really bent on getting your girlfriend back, you have to accept the seriousness of your situation and stop acting like a kid trying to get his mom to buy him a puppy ("Please mom, please? I promise to take care of it forever and never hurt its feelings" - sounds familiar?).

So, how to win her back?

What was it that made her break things off with you? Was it your habit of flirting with other women, your temper, how you took her for granted? How to get her back depends on how you deal with these issues. She's not going to come back to you if you're not willing to change.

Secondly, give her some space. Insisting on talking about it might just lead to more arguments and fights, especially when emotions are still very high. Let a few days pass so you can both cool off. When you're really ready to talk (and not scream), then ask her if she's willing to do so. If she's not yet ready, don't push it.

Lastly, persevere. If you endure long enough (without pestering her every five minutes with your sobs), then maybe she'll see how much you really care about her.